Day 8 of 40 Days of Story: Who do you want to become on the journey?
You want something. And you want something even more.
In story structure our hero has a problem to solve, a desire to chase. It’s her/his external quest. But in that process there emerges an internal quest. The hero desires something deeper–ultimately needs to become something more.
One of my favorite features of story is that it calls out longings. It helps us see and name desires and dreams. And ultimately it’s not story if it’s not transformation.
Once again: Conflict drives a story. Desire defines it.
So here’s today’s question: Who do you want to become on this journey? How do you want to change and grow in this season?
I know. These questions can feel epic…and ethereal. But I’d encourage you to get really practical and hopeful. So, to get what you want in this season what will it ask of you? More courage? More patience? More vulnerability? More forgiveness? More joy?
What is that one thing you need more of…the one trait that you get to become more of?
As we go through this process we will talk extensively about the role of the Guide in story structure. But it’s worth noting it here. I don’t believe we become more–achieve this internal quest–on our own.
There are a thousand guides we can rally on our journey, but for me two have been the most profound. God–the Divine Ground of Being and Source of Love–not only guides me on the path of becoming but gives me the very grace to desire more and the power/love to become more. And secondly, I’ve needed trusted friends as guides. Their embrace of who I am now and their belief in who I can become keeps me moving.
More and more I believe: Community builds capacity.
So, consider your one trait you want to grow into in this season. Who do you get to become? And then, who can help you on this journey of becoming?
I leave you with the words of another guide of mine:
To Come Home to Yourself by John O’Donohue
May all that is unforgiven in you
be released
May your fears yield
Their deepest tranquilities
May all that is unlived in you
Blossom into a future
Graced with love.
Amen and amen. May it be so. And as always, I’d love to hear about it.
beautiful! I just love every post and, again, I feel like you are speaking directly to me as I reassess my status quo. Thanks for sharing your talents!
Confidence. I need more confidence.
I see God working on me in this area, but realize I have a long way to go.
My boss recently said, “I believe in you way more than you believe in yourself.”
I guess after so many years of being underestimated and underappreciated, you start to believe it yourself.
But there is not room or time for this insecurity in my new world. I have to let it go.
Who do you want/get to be on this journey? The discerning messenger
Who can help you on this journey of becoming? My husband who knows me and loves me well, my friends, and the mentor I do not yet have in place, but she’s not afraid to speak both truth and encouragement to me. She’s willing to call me out in order to set me upon the right path in order to point me in the direction I need to go. If only I knew her name…